Renee’s Favorite (and not so favorite) Reflections of 2013


On this last evening of 2013, in the U.S. that is, I’m hyped up on pain meds after a dental procedure and looking back over a year that was a mixed bag of almost every conceivable thing one could think of.  Isn’t … Continue reading

Divorce and Child Behavior Study Survey

If you have been divorced within the past 3 years, and have a child(ren) between the ages of 2-5 currently enrolled in preschool, please consider taking this survey.  Alana, a doctoral candidate who is completing  her thesis in clinical psychology, created the online survey, which is anonymous and can be completed in under 15 minutes. Please find the survey at the following link:

Even though my son is an adult, I remember vividly the times when his father and I did not get along very well and how it affected our son’s behavior in the short-term.  Due to the distance between us and his father, our son visited WHN once per month, sometimes less. When an extended period of time went by between visitations, and after our son returned home to me, he would have a meltdown around day 3 after coming back. His dad’s and my parenting styles were different, and no matter how much I tried to get us on the same page, his father refused to be consistent. It was hard on all of us.

My experience dealing with this issue is why I’m happy to share this survey.  I’m also in graduate school, so how could I not help. 

Thank you for your support,

Come on!

My gmail SPAM filter sends all spam to my Trash folder. This spam includes notifications from a dating site I’d joined years ago but had since forgotten about. Thought I’d share some pick-up lines that were obviously selected from a list for your evening’s entertainment.

“Why aren’t you in jail? It’s illegal to look that good.”   RESPONSE:  I brought bail money. Enjoy your stay, though!  DELETE/BLOCK

“Is your dad an astronaut? Because someone took the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.”  RESPONSE:  No, those are floaters. They’ve worsened with age.  DELETE/BLOCK.

“Do you trust your gut instinct?”  RESPONSE:  Not usually, but I’ll err on the side of caution and DELETE/BLOCK you.

“Do you have a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes.” RESPONSE:  All roads lead to Hell; you might want to make a u-turn. DELETE/BLOCK.

“I’m not a photographer, but I can picture us together.”  RESPONSE:  I was absent that day. DELETE/BLOCK

Experiencing nausea, yet? No? Read on…

“Remember me? Oh, that’s right; I’ve only met you in my dreams.” RESPONSE:  That was a nightmare. You obviously can’t discern fantasy from reality. DELETE/BLOCK.

“Hello, I’m a thief, and I’m here to steal your heart.”  RESPONSE:  I don’t have a heart. DELETE/BLOCK.

“You must have lasers in your eyes because you’ve stunned me.”  RESPONSE:  No, that was Superman’s heat vision.  I bring him everywhere with me.  DELETE/BLOCK.

“I’d love to survive a zombie apocalypse with you.”   RESPONSE:  Awesome! I can feed you to the zombies while I make my getaway. DELETE/BLOCK.


Reneé has been happily divorced since 2000 and is devoted to making the most of parenthood, even though she secretly likes the zombie apocalypse line.   

Copyright 2013, Reflections of a Divorced Mom and No derivations, no duplication of any content is allowed without express written permission. You may share posts as long as it is attributed to Reflections of a Divorced Mom and/or

Always have a backup plan . . . or a really good colorist.


The uh-oh’s of life happen; however, I believe that a little planning ahead can help. If I have an idea about how I will handle the unexpected, I experience significantly less stress and am much happier. Having a solid backup … Continue reading

They call me, Missus.


So, you went back to your maiden name. That’s all fine and dandy unless you have children who carry your ex’s last name. No doubt, you either have been or will be addressed as Mrs. [former last name] again. Repeatedly. … Continue reading

Nocturnal Bliss

Light bulbs & Marriage

Divorce Tag: It’s WHN’s turn now!


Players:  Two exes; adult children 18 years and older Rules:  The terms of the divorce decree and visitation arrangement no longer apply. The parent and/or adult child who arranges the event, outing, trip, etc., is tagged “it” for the duration … Continue reading

Saturday’s Homework Playlist

I’m a goal-oriented individual; always moving toward something.  Since August 2012, I’ve been pursuing a M.Ed in Adult Education in e-Learning Technology and Design through an online university, and I’ve my final Capstone Project coming up soon. I can’t say how excited I am to be completing this goal.

Every Wednesday and Saturday, I have to upload completed assignments. During this time, I always listen to music. My selections generally reflect what I’m going through that day, hour, etc.  So, I thought I’d list out today’s offerings.

  1.  “Room to Breathe” by You Me at Six.  (Heard this on the radio this morning while in line at Taco Bell to get an A.M. Bacon Breakfast Taco. Seriously better than any breakfast burrito out there. I can’t say enough how much I’m looking forward to having “room to breathe” once I get this degree done.)
  2.  “Summer of the Strange” by The Toadies.  (Heard one of their songs while binge watching Sons of Anarchy over the Christmas holiday last year. Nothing strange about the summer…yet.)
  3.  “Be With Me” by Vast. (One of my faves. Can you guess my favorite line in this song?)
  4.  “Smooth Up In Ya” by Bullet Boys. (I can’t help it; I’m a child of the 80s.)
  5.  “Cowboy” by Kid Rock.  (I bounce in the car during the western theme music part. I’d love to party with him, as long as there are no cops involved.)
  6.  “Love is Alive” by Gary Wright. (Ah, the 70s. Well, love ain’t alive in my little world, but I like the song.)
  7.  “Ah! Leah” by Donnie Iris. (A fave from my teenage years.)
  8.  “Feel Good Drag”  by Anberlin.  (Heard this band’s music playing through the church speakers. Yep! Not kidding.)
  9.  “High Ball Stepper” by Jack White. (I love his music.)
  10.  “How You Like Me Now” by The Heavy. (Heard this during the credits of G.I. Joe. This seems like a good F you song.)

Happy listening!

~ Renee


Reneé has been happily divorced since 2000 and is devoted to making the most of the divorced life, even though her tastes in music are all over the place.

Copyright 2014, Reflections of a Divorced Mom and No derivations, no duplication of any content is allowed without express written permission. You may share posts as long as it is attributed to Reflections of a Divorced Mom and/or